Dear Darling {4}

Dear Darling,

I need to tell you something terribly important. You must never forget it and you must embrace it as though my love for you depends on it–because it does.

It is this: you must love Frit.

You will, of course, never love her as much as, or in the same way, I do. But still, you must love her, if for no other reason (though there are millions) than that she has been here, while you haven’t.

Please know–I don’t say that to be hurtful. I am grateful to know that all things happen in God’s time (even if He is really slow sometimes), and I know both of us, you and me, have needed this time to do, and to become.

But I will admit, the waiting is hard. Sometimes the absence of you is so crushing that it drops me to my knees. And of course there is always the lingering worry that maybe you won’t find me. But in these moments, when a few tears might fall, when no one else is here, she is. When no one else understands, she does.

Ours is a friendship that runs an ocean deep. Our scars, and hearts, are kindred. And our lives, hers and mine, are tangled up eternally.

So you must love her. Don’t forget, ok?

xo,
me

p.s. You probably owe her a big fat “thank you” too, for pinch hitting while you’re off wherever you are, doing whatever you’re doing. I’m just sayin’.

Dear Darling {3}

Dear Darling,

I was thinking about this the other day and I don’t know if you know this already, but just in case, I thought I’d let you know that I’m not really a “dozen roses kind of girl.” I mean–don’t get me wrong. I’m not going to send you packin’ if you bring home a bouquet of long-stems (in fact you’ll probably get lucky if you do) but I don’t need that much. A few daisies tied with string will do the trick just fine.

I just thought you’d like to know.

Love you.

xo,
me

p.s. having said that, you should also know that one of my Rules of Thumb is: Fresh flowers make everything better. (Translation: Bring flowers often.)

Dear Darling {2}

Dear Darling,

This won’t be long. Just a short note to make a quick request …

Please let there be dancing. Lots, and lots of dancing.

In the kitchen after the dishes are done. In the bathroom while I’m brushing my hair. Right before we climb into bed. On your way out the door in the morning. Under the bistro lights on the patio, me in my cotton sundress and you in that jeans-and-white-T-shirt combo that gets me all hot and bothered, barefoot and in love.

Catch me off guard. Grab my hand. Circle your arms ’round my waist and pull me in. Search my eyes in that way you do and then pull me closer. I don’t want to know where I end and you begin. And just keep me there ok? Slowly swaying, back and forth, round and round. Music or not.

Do you promise?

Just let there be dancing. Lots, and lots of dancing.

I love you, you know.

xo,
me

Dear Darling

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Dear Darling,

My health insurance runs out today. I know I should have taken care of this sooner, I mean I have been unemployed for nearly three weeks, but as soon as I begin to think about premiums and deductibles, my head starts to spin. You know how much I despise thinking about these things. Like mowing the lawn and cleaning the garage, this type of thing is your job. Call me a stumbling block to the feminist movement, but all I want to think about is what to make for dinner. Oh! Speaking of, dinner that is, I’ve decided we’re going to use cloth napkins every night, even when we have children. I do so love cloth napkins.

Anyways, back to the health insurance, I even tried to read an article about the President’s health care reform last night and couldn’t even make it halfway through. It sounds like a terrible plan, although I must admit, the idea of lower costs does entice me. It’s all so expensive! But as you know, I like discussing politics about as much as I like thinking about insurance, so I’ll stop there.

And believe me, I know how this makes me sound–like a mindless woman tied to her own apron strings. But you know, and I know, that that’s just not the case. I’m quite smart (sometimes smarter than you in fact [wink]); my quick mind is one of the things you love most about me. And I’m fully capable too. There are just other things I like doing and thinking about better. But don’t worry. I’ll take care of this, like I always do. I just hate having to do it without you. So. Hurry home, would you?

I love you.

xo,
Me

p.s. On a related note: all the smoke detectors were beeping so Frit and I took them down to replace the batteries. That was a year ago and we still haven’t hooked them back up. Would you please take care of that?

p.p.s. The dishwasher is broken too. It’s stuck on heated dry or something.

p.p.p.s. Thanks love. I think you’re wonderful you know.