Initiative 2010, I Need Your Help

Every New Year, my friend Emily chooses a theme to live by for the next 365 days, i.e. 2005: Husbands Arrive (she and her roommates wound up getting married that year “oddly” enough) or 2007: Closer to Heaven (wherein she worked on some spiritual goals throughout the year). Well, when I heard about her tactic, in the back of my mind I came up with my own theme for 2010. I didn’t write it down, or think about it too seriously, but it crosses my mind every now and again. What was it, you ask? I’ll tell you …

2010: Date More Men

And I can happily say I’ve already accomplished the goal. I’ve dated more men in 2010 than I did in 2009.

Exhibit A.

Exhibit B.

And see, here’s the thing about Exhibit B … I thoroughly enjoyed dating him. I’d forgotten how much fun it can be. And even though it ended, it made me want to try again. So back to the catalog I go.

But herein lies the problem: I don’t have a catalog. I work from home, I go to a family ward*, my eHarmony membership ran out and I don’t want to hop online again just yet if I don’t have to, and there really aren’t a lot of ways to meet single LDS guys (unless you want to go to those wretched regional activities/conferences–which I don’t).


I’m swallowing my pride (and my fears) and I’m asking for help. From you. Yes, I’m asking my readers to set me up. I really think this could be fun! So if you’d like to give the role of matchmaker a try, here are the rules and guidelines for Krista’s Initiative 2010: Date More Men

1. He needs to be an active, dedicated, and faithful member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.

2. He needs to be 5’11” or taller (the taller the better).

3. He can be as young as 25/26-ish or as old as 40, although there is room to fudge on this rule if you have someone you think is just really fantastic but doesn’t fall exactly in that age-range.

4. You may certainly post this solicitation for dates on your blogs or Facebook pages. You may talk to friends, sisters, husbands, mothers, brothers, etc. about it. In fact, I would encourage and ask you to. The way I see it is that it’s all about networking. So if you don’t know any single guys, maybe someone you know does.

5. Don’t think too hard about whether or not it’s an “eternal match made in heaven.” Let us figure that out. If he’s kind, honest, and hard-working (whatever the profession or level of school), then I want to go out with him. Really, I do. I don’t have a “type” that I’m looking for per say, so toss ’em my way.

6. Having said that, if there is an obvious reason he is single (poor hygiene, can’t hold down a job, loves his cat more than anything in the world, can’t do anything without his mother’s approval), please be kind and skip this opportunity to play matchmaker.

7. Please don’t give him the link to my blog so that he can “check me out.” Ever. I’m serious. There’s too much of my soul here. In the event that he’d like to see what I look like before committing to calling, I have included a recent picture at the end of this post for you to download and distribute as you see fit.

8. You may not portray me as any sort or variety of desperate when approaching your single male friend about me. I’m far far from it. I am also not marriage hungry. The only point of this is to date (a lot hopefully), have fun, and meet new people. Period.

9. If you’re the praying type, pray about it. I know that might sound funny or weird, but I believe God answers prayers. I also believe He uses us to bless each other’s lives. So put those two truths together and what do you get? A God who will help you if you decide you’d like to help me.

So here’s how it works. If you, or someone you know, has a guy in mind, email me and tell me about him. Talk to him too. See what he thinks. Here are a few tidbits about me:

Krista, age 31, 5’7″, originally from South Carolina, graduated with a degree in journalism, served an LDS mission, started professional career working in PR and marketing for a record label, now works independently as a writer, photographer, & marketing consultant. Sings. Draws/Paints. Owns a boutique. Loves planning parties, fresh seafood, and the sunshine. And here’s a recent picture:

(Taken Sunday, June 13)

What do you think? Is this a good idea? Or a bad idea? Either way, I really hope you’ll help me.



*LDS congregations are grouped by geographic locations and are called “wards.” In most areas you can find a “singles ward” where you can go to Church with other young single Latter-day Saints. You don’t have to go to a singles ward if you don’t want to. It’s just an option. The other option is what’s referred to as a “family ward” where the congregation is made up of all ages and family status–kids, parents, singles, widows, seniors, etc.


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  1. Fantastic idea. I’ll see what I can come up with. P.S. Love the picture! You look incredible!

  2. Joe and I didn’t start “exclusively” dating until a couple of weeks before we were engaged. While I was ready to get married, he wanted to still date other people. And I don’t think his wanting to date other people was because he wasn’t “digging me enough”, but more of a way to make sure that his judgment on whether or not I was the very right one for him wasn’t clouded over by the blinding power that can come from physical attraction. It was hard for me at first because I felt like here I was just waiting around for him to decide, yes I only want to date her… but after a while it came to make more sense to me and… VOILA! Here we are, married.

    I’m not saying it happens to everyone like this, but I’m glad that we handled our dating situation the way that we did, and I wouldn’t have dreamed of a more perfect outcome.

    I’ll be thinking about you! Maybe there’s a cute dental student here in SF that has your name on him :)

  3. I can pray for sure – cause I already have. If you think the themes are powerful, wait until you hear about the praying!

    As for men, I have similar reasons for not knowing so many. The most eligible bachelor I know is like 5’10”. I guess that’s why we’re friends and I never had an awkward crush. :) I’ll think on this one. And, um, I thought single people always met eachother in bars . . .

    and I love it.

    But, my dear, don’t say 5’11”. Seriously. if you’re going to do this, just be open to a guy that is your height. You can do it. It works…and makes cuddling fit even better ;)


  5. I happen to be related to the world’s most eligible bachelor. My brother in-law is a returned missionary, active member and a lawyer in downtown LA. Yes, a lawyer and never been married. In fact, here is a great story:

    I am in the hospital getting ready to have my Violet. Ethan sends out a text to his family that says, “Pitocin is starting. I am so excited!” He then gets a response from his eligible bachelor brother that says, “Who’s Pitocin? Does he play for the Dodgers?” Yeah, he is such a bachelor that he thinks Pitocin is a baseball player.

    BTW, did you get my e-mail? Check your spam folder.

  6. @emily: so maybe i could go 5’10” :)

    @laurel: i can’t. i really can’t. if i’m going to do this, i’m doing it on my terms. but i appreciate the advice.

    @rookie: so are you gonna hook a sister up or what? p.s. that was a great story. :) in fact, it makes me want to go out with him more than the fact that he’s a lawyer. haha

  7. May have a few ideas for you girl. Got to check on the height thing. Can’t remember how tall they are compared to Bob. Love ya tons! Call me sometime, want to share some news with you (NO I AM NOT PREGO!) You know you were thinking it. ;)

  8. Okay, so the guy in my ward I think would be great! He is a wonderful guy who has worked in the Bishopric of the Singles Ward and is now in YM. He owns his own place and everyone in our ward wants him to marry their daughter. He is really sweet and loves kids. I think it would be worth a shot. He is gone right now I think but will try to track him down this weekend. Also, Bob has a couple of guys at work that are single. They are more on the younger end but seem pretty mature. One just ended a relationship and really wants to move forward. Bob said he would talk to him and see what works out. :) You go girl!

  9. So I have a guy…I have been thinking about this for awhile now….when you started dating “he” I shoved it aside. Here is the issue…he is currently in Korea for a year. He is an officer in the Air Force, tall, good looking…around my age. I think you at least might enjoy the pen pal aspect of it. I know his parents live in Gig Harbor…how cool is that?! You let me know if you are interested in “talking” and I will make it happen! Love you!

    P.s….can you tell I haven’t caught up on your life recently.

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