Karly and JJ were married, or what we Mormons call “sealed”, at the Columbia South Carolina Temple. We believe that when a marriage is solemnized in a temple by someone holding the proper priesthood authority, it is recorded both here on earth and in heaven and that it is an eternal union–not just until “death do you part.” This is one of the main reasons we place such a huge emphasis on families–creating them, strengthening them, and loving them–because they are forever.
I don’t write much about my own personal experiences with love and relationships (or lack thereof) here on my blog for a lot of reasons. Partly because people say stupid things to “older” single people–not because they mean to or are stupid, they just don’t know what to say, and in the absence of knowing what to say, people wind up saying really dumb things and well, I don’t want to read dumb comments about being single. But mostly I don’t write about my own experience with love and relationships because I’m still figuring it out. Figuring out how to live singly. Figuring out how to thrive singly. Figuring out how to date, who to date, where to find people to date, etc.
And I know (I know alright?) that I will find someone (or they’ll find me), so don’t leave that in the comment box. And I know I’m doing great things in the meantime, so don’t leave that in the comment box either. And I know he’s going to be great once I find him and that I’ve still got time, so don’t think about leaving that for me to read first thing tomorrow morning. See what I mean? It’s just too complicated to write about love and relationships because I have to include too many caveats about how I’m not sad or wistful or lonely or cynical or or too career minded or waiting for perfection. So now that I’ve scared you all away from the comment box, I do have one thing to say–one thing that I don’t think needs any caveats. It is this…
As I sat in the temple, in one of the most holy places on earth, surrounded by friends and family, and watched my sister kneel at an alter holding hands with a good, loving man, making promises to each other and to God, I knew. I knew that that moment was what we, humankind, are here for–to find a spouse that we can create an eternal family with. It is where the truest joys are born. There is nothing worth more than that covenant and relationship. And there is nothing more important to me. Nothing.
I just wanted you to know.
Pictures at the temple:
(Me, Dad, Mom, Karly, Kaycie)